last cold and snowy sunday in chicago as the boys were carrying in the food from tim’s trunk, we adults who were cooking, look out the window to gaze upon this lovely family ritual, and see the youngest boy throwing dinner rolls into the snow.
“why is he throwing dinner rolls at the snow?!”, one of the guys said.
” because he’s a boy i said” as i giggled inside with the joy for i now i see such illogical behavior as logical.
Today my oldest of 3 sons turns 18. and i think back to all of the things that boys just do. because, they are boys. i guess. although of course, as we train our boys not to just throw food in the snow, i find a crazy beauty of manhood in such behaviors. and i know that without some of these male desires, the world would not have bridges or spaceships and airplanes, or meat.
life is choked by control. it is fed by guidance and nurture. i wonder if we sometimes choke men and actually just squeeze the life so that if it cant do what it was made to do, it then does what it was not made to do, for desire is given by God.
so, let men be men
and when you see a little boy in action and ask yourself these questions:
see the joy in this boy-
why are there sticks and rocks in your pocket?
why do you sleep with marbles under your pillow?
do you have to wrestle in the kitchen doorway right now?
do you have to make a super hero cape out of my best cashmere blanket?
why do you want to play on the roof?
do you have to swing from a tree into the leaf pile, is not just running and jumping good enough?
why are your shoes wet?
why do you make so much noise?
cant you sit still?
why are you jousting with chopsticks and straws?
must we try to burn everything in the firepit? cant we just roast the marshmallows?
have you changed your clothes this week?
why is there mud all over this towel?
why are you playing golf with the plunger?
do we have to bring your football into your carseat?
why is the remote control taken completely apart again?
why are there bugs in the freezer?
why are you microwaving candles?
do you really just want bungee cords for christmas?
did you use all of my buckets making squirrel traps?
and all of my rubber bands making sling shots?
what can you not turn into a gun?
why are you boys sword fighting with my swiffers?
please dont hit each other too hard?
why is there a rip in your pants?
why are you running with squirt guns in the house?
yes, i see the car wheels, honey.
i hope dad is not the victim for that scotch tape and yarn booby-trap? and……………………
……… now please….. dont : burb-fart-laugh …at grandmas house
