Daily valentines without agenda

In a month it will be Valentine’s Day, the heart candies and dog biscuits are already at The Home Depot checkout. Inside of me and you, and everybody, even grouches and hard hearts, there is something just as sweet and love-evoking as candy. I would like for us to share it here on the Love Without Agenda blog. This ‘sweet stuff’ we humans have is a mixture of inspiration, innovation, collaboration, sacrifice and hope. These are energies that all humans and only humans are born with. Sharing them guarantees that we can keep them, while the adversaries of life seek to take them from us. Everyday I will post a ‘Love Without Agenda’ action, or valentine. I invite you to post your valentine as comment for others to see, some of these we will repost or retweet. The only requirement for our actions would be that they give love without expectation of anything in return. If you don’t think you can do that I would suggest to try it anyway and get as close as you can to love without expectation and do something uncharacteristically nice, you gotta start somewhere. If you are left unthanked and unappreciated and don’t get mad, then you have succeeded! If you do get mad remember: We give love because this is who we are, and that is enough. These Love without agenda valentines come in all shapes and sizes and from all corners of life. They can be things you do or see others do or wanted to do, but were afraid. They can, and should, be towards your kids and spouse and friends and coworkers. Love starts at home where we can think ‘no one is looking’, which is a lie, love always leaves a mark, as does the choice not to love. Be alert! love opportunities are in every moment! This is why we need to encourage one another in love because we do get tired and need to be appreciated. Here are a few love examples from my day today: Big- Our ebook even after going through a few edits and many eyeballs still has typos. One reader and old friend not only gave the advice to edit once more, but was willing to edit all 500 pages herself. Her comments were corrective yet positive and life giving. Love is found in how we do what we do. Lucky for us, she is also detailed, organized, an English major and a great editor. No paychecks or perks, we were loved without agenda. Medium- Spencer stopped by to hand me the newly edited ebook, letting me know he was in a hurry to be off to work. In walked some kids still home from school break. We shared soup and conversation, setting our agenda aside for just a bit. Listening to a kid when you are busy, that is golden love. Small- Someone I don’t know thanked me for an idea I had shared with them, they said It was “brilliant”, thats love! Small- I took the time to “yelp” a service oriented business. Slowing down to give feedback is love. Small- Tonite I will make a healthy dinner after I will have cleaned our apartment. Laying a foundation for others to be their best is love. Above all, loving others without an agenda connects human to human in such a way that transfers value both to the giver and the receiver. It is a forever touch that says “You are valuable”. What’s your ‘love without agenda’ moment?

Tags: family, inspiration, kids, love, unconditional, valentines day