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	<title>Love Without Agenda &#187; growth</title>
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		<title>A Disney-ABC executive&#8217;s Love without agenda</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2011/01/a-disney-abc-executives-love-without-agenda-2/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Jan 2011 01:03:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/20110129-102658.jpg"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/20110129-102658-300x225.jpg" alt="" title="20110129-102658.jpg" width="300" height="225" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-1387" /></a>It was hot, loud and crowded at Cornerstone Festival in Illinois. Young artists lined the streets to play loud but purposeful and passionate music, hardcore stuff. A lot of black clothing, a lot of tatoos and piercings, a lot of life wanting to burst forth. I love young people. 

The LWA kids were painting on second run t-shirts the word &#8220;Stop Consuming..&#8221;, when we met &#8220;Mama Dawn&#8221;

A rocker herself, she was in a band called Crumbacher as a young adult. Now a single mom of teens and a Senior Management executive at Disney-ABC in California using her musical talents. 

The kids that hover around her call her Mama Dawn, she appears to have 20 or so kids. 

In listening to her amazing story, we found that she got her name Mama Dawn by sharing her &#8220;free <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2011/01/a-disney-abc-executives-love-without-agenda-2/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/20110129-102658.jpg"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/20110129-102658-300x225.jpg" alt="" title="20110129-102658.jpg" width="300" height="225" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-1387" /></a>It was hot, loud and crowded at Cornerstone Festival in Illinois. Young artists lined the streets to play loud but purposeful and passionate music, hardcore stuff. A lot of black clothing, a lot of tatoos and piercings, a lot of life wanting to burst forth. I love young people. 

The LWA kids were painting on second run t-shirts the word &#8220;Stop Consuming..&#8221;, when we met &#8220;Mama Dawn&#8221;

A rocker herself, she was in a band called Crumbacher as a young adult. Now a single mom of teens and a Senior Management executive at Disney-ABC in California using her musical talents. 

The kids that hover around her call her Mama Dawn, she appears to have 20 or so kids. 

In listening to her amazing story, we found that she got her name Mama Dawn by sharing her &#8220;free <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2011/01/a-disney-abc-executives-love-without-agenda-2/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>Our Thrifty Fun</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2010/05/our-thrifty-fun/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 28 May 2010 21:25:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[moving]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[We at LWA have been in &#8220;moving mode&#8221; for a month or so now. 

oh there&#8217;s a lot that we want to write about on our &#8220;moving from the suburbs to the city experience&#8221;:
change-growth-home-challenge-creativity-people-diversity-needs-letting go-working hard&#8230;&#8230;.

but for today I just wanted to share some of our &#8220;thrifty fun&#8221; ideas. 

Whether rich or poor, we are committed to using monies wisely, trying to recycle, repurpose, DIY, work hard with our own hands and live on less. This takes us a wonderful world of creative and collaborative people, which is super inspiring. For me it feels &#8220;healthy&#8221; and somehow &#8220;right&#8221;. I even discover more creativity inside of my own self when in this space. 

In the past month we have: 

-taken our old poker table..and made it into Spencer&#8217;s desk, using only a saw, screwdriver, strong arms and our secret tool: industrial velcro ! 

-took an old piece of barnwood that we found and made it into a table with: sandpaper, wipe on polyurethane, random pieces of .25 cent <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2010/05/our-thrifty-fun/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2010/05/our-thrifty-fun/" title="Our Thrifty Fun"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/yapb_cache/cimg02152.8ykpy5c4rp4w8ccsw0k4kkcw4.a9sxxja1njksswcs400wcc4cg.th.jpeg" width="180" height="241" alt="Our Thrifty Fun" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[We at LWA have been in &#8220;moving mode&#8221; for a month or so now. 

oh there&#8217;s a lot that we want to write about on our &#8220;moving from the suburbs to the city experience&#8221;:
change-growth-home-challenge-creativity-people-diversity-needs-letting go-working hard&#8230;&#8230;.

but for today I just wanted to share some of our &#8220;thrifty fun&#8221; ideas. 

Whether rich or poor, we are committed to using monies wisely, trying to recycle, repurpose, DIY, work hard with our own hands and live on less. This takes us a wonderful world of creative and collaborative people, which is super inspiring. For me it feels &#8220;healthy&#8221; and somehow &#8220;right&#8221;. I even discover more creativity inside of my own self when in this space. 

In the past month we have: 

-taken our old poker table..and made it into Spencer&#8217;s desk, using only a saw, screwdriver, strong arms and our secret tool: industrial velcro ! 

-took an old piece of barnwood that we found and made it into a table with: sandpaper, wipe on polyurethane, random pieces of .25 cent <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2010/05/our-thrifty-fun/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2010/05/our-thrifty-fun/" title="Our Thrifty Fun"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/yapb_cache/cimg02152.8ykpy5c4rp4w8ccsw0k4kkcw4.a9sxxja1njksswcs400wcc4cg.th.jpeg" width="180" height="241" alt="Our Thrifty Fun" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>Because He&#8217;s a Boy</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/12/because-hes-a-boy/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:31:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[last cold and snowy sunday in chicago as the boys were carrying in the food from tim&#8217;s trunk, we adults who were cooking, look out the window to gaze upon this lovely family ritual, and see the youngest boy throwing dinner rolls into the snow.
&#8220;why is he throwing dinner rolls at the snow?!&#8221;, one of the guys said.
&#8221; because he&#8217;s a boy i said&#8221; as i giggled inside with the joy for i now i see such illogical behavior as logical.

Today my oldest of 3 sons turns 18. and i think back to all of the things that boys just do. because, they are boys. i guess. although of course, as we train our boys not to just throw food in the snow, i find a crazy beauty of manhood in such behaviors. and i know that without some of these male desires, the world would not have bridges or spaceships and airplanes, or meat.

life is choked by control. it is fed by guidance and nurture. i wonder if we sometimes choke men and actually just squeeze the life so that if it cant do what it was made to do, it then does what it was not made to do, for desire is given by <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/12/because-hes-a-boy/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/12/because-hes-a-boy/" title="Because He&#8217;s a Boy"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/yapb_cache/lifesize.c0erjuimvdkcs8484gs84w8kw.a9sxxja1njksswcs400wcc4cg.th.jpeg" width="180" height="253" alt="Because He&#8217;s a Boy" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[last cold and snowy sunday in chicago as the boys were carrying in the food from tim&#8217;s trunk, we adults who were cooking, look out the window to gaze upon this lovely family ritual, and see the youngest boy throwing dinner rolls into the snow.
&#8220;why is he throwing dinner rolls at the snow?!&#8221;, one of the guys said.
&#8221; because he&#8217;s a boy i said&#8221; as i giggled inside with the joy for i now i see such illogical behavior as logical.

Today my oldest of 3 sons turns 18. and i think back to all of the things that boys just do. because, they are boys. i guess. although of course, as we train our boys not to just throw food in the snow, i find a crazy beauty of manhood in such behaviors. and i know that without some of these male desires, the world would not have bridges or spaceships and airplanes, or meat.

life is choked by control. it is fed by guidance and nurture. i wonder if we sometimes choke men and actually just squeeze the life so that if it cant do what it was made to do, it then does what it was not made to do, for desire is given by <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/12/because-hes-a-boy/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/12/because-hes-a-boy/" title="Because He&#8217;s a Boy"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/yapb_cache/lifesize.c0erjuimvdkcs8484gs84w8kw.a9sxxja1njksswcs400wcc4cg.th.jpeg" width="180" height="253" alt="Because He&#8217;s a Boy" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>LWA History</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/10/lwa-history/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 24 Oct 2009 20:47:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jimmy Spencer Jr.</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Since many of you don’t totally know me, I thought I would take one post and put a little history of me and what I do&#8230; so here we go.

In 2003 I started  working at a small church in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago. To be brutally honest it was dead. Why I was working there is a story for another blog, and another time&#8230; but for now we will just say that I felt like my efforts were best placed in this small, conservative,  white church in Chicago. My plan simple. I was going to open the church to the local kids, become friends with them and love them.

I had no idea what was about to happen.

In the next 2 and a half years I was going to be flooded with hundreds [300 to 400 or so]  of students&#8211;and their parents. Students from broken homes, immigrant homes, alcoholic and drug using homes, physical and sexual abuse situations&#8230;the list goes on and on.

Caucasians
African Americans
Mexicans
Puerto Ricans
Polish
Russians
Koreans

I had 6 languages in this group, English, Spanish, Polish, Russian, Korean and Greek.

Needless to say I was <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/10/lwa-history/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/10/lwa-history/" title="LWA History"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/yapb_cache/jakedistort.e5kwmekyobso80k8w084sow4c.a9sxxja1njksswcs400wcc4cg.th.jpeg" width="180" height="323" alt="LWA History" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[Since many of you don’t totally know me, I thought I would take one post and put a little history of me and what I do&#8230; so here we go.

In 2003 I started  working at a small church in the Northwest Suburbs of Chicago. To be brutally honest it was dead. Why I was working there is a story for another blog, and another time&#8230; but for now we will just say that I felt like my efforts were best placed in this small, conservative,  white church in Chicago. My plan simple. I was going to open the church to the local kids, become friends with them and love them.

I had no idea what was about to happen.

In the next 2 and a half years I was going to be flooded with hundreds [300 to 400 or so]  of students&#8211;and their parents. Students from broken homes, immigrant homes, alcoholic and drug using homes, physical and sexual abuse situations&#8230;the list goes on and on.

Caucasians
African Americans
Mexicans
Puerto Ricans
Polish
Russians
Koreans

I had 6 languages in this group, English, Spanish, Polish, Russian, Korean and Greek.

Needless to say I was <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/10/lwa-history/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2009/10/lwa-history/" title="LWA History"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/uploads/yapb_cache/jakedistort.e5kwmekyobso80k8w084sow4c.a9sxxja1njksswcs400wcc4cg.th.jpeg" width="180" height="323" alt="LWA History" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>consumerism breeds apathy</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/09/consumerism-breeds-apathy/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Sep 2008 03:55:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[i am a people watcher. not the outside, but the insides, which reveal themselves. i am an observer and a listener. 


i have gleaned little cues from behaviors, im sure you have too&#8230;
observed amongst a bunch of us who are growing and good people
..ways we are&#8230;.things we do and say&#8230;. behaviors i see that made me ponder&#8230;..why?&#8230;what&#8217;s happening? to my generation. we exhibit:

low expectation of self
high expectation of others
low self esteem
high desire of control and position
burdened leaders
un-powered members
indifferent to the grossest of global need
desiring to be taught more than to learn
most people too busy to help
rich but no expendable income
loving with an agenda
more critical than grateful
sense of entitlement
independent mindset greater than whole group mindset
need of external joy
boredom within  excess
being hungry and obese
addicts who who have graduated from the best help programs
lack of self discipline
giving sex then love -rather that love then sex
apathetic christians

and i guess the list could go <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/09/consumerism-breeds-apathy/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/09/consumerism-breeds-apathy/" title="consumerism breeds apathy"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/plugins/yet-another-photoblog/YapbThumbnailer.php?post_id=37&amp;w=180" width="1" height="1" alt="consumerism breeds apathy" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[i am a people watcher. not the outside, but the insides, which reveal themselves. i am an observer and a listener. 


i have gleaned little cues from behaviors, im sure you have too&#8230;
observed amongst a bunch of us who are growing and good people
..ways we are&#8230;.things we do and say&#8230;. behaviors i see that made me ponder&#8230;..why?&#8230;what&#8217;s happening? to my generation. we exhibit:

low expectation of self
high expectation of others
low self esteem
high desire of control and position
burdened leaders
un-powered members
indifferent to the grossest of global need
desiring to be taught more than to learn
most people too busy to help
rich but no expendable income
loving with an agenda
more critical than grateful
sense of entitlement
independent mindset greater than whole group mindset
need of external joy
boredom within  excess
being hungry and obese
addicts who who have graduated from the best help programs
lack of self discipline
giving sex then love -rather that love then sex
apathetic christians

and i guess the list could go <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/09/consumerism-breeds-apathy/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p><a href="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/09/consumerism-breeds-apathy/" title="consumerism breeds apathy"><img src="http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/wp-content/plugins/yet-another-photoblog/YapbThumbnailer.php?post_id=37&amp;w=180" width="1" height="1" alt="consumerism breeds apathy" style="float:left; padding:0 10px 10px 0;" /></a>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>covering our crap</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/07/covering-our-crap/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Jul 2008 05:09:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[the shema house, where the LWA guys live and i work at, is quiet this week.

perfect opportunity for me to throw away some garbage that weve collected, mostly old sofas and random stuff people give us as hand me downs, which is thoughtful, and the reason that it is hard to get rid of old crap. inevitably someone will give reason as to why we should hold onto this or that just a little more.

i understand. but i also see the need for occasional executive decision. i did the same when my kids were little. we together decided to give away some of our one hundred stuffed animals to other kids who may have none. as we went thru the animals in order to share our over abundance of bunnies, cute puppies, beanie babies and pokemon, the children loved each one and found reason to keep each one, and &#8220;gave&#8221; what amounts to &#8220;not giving&#8221; a couple of animals from their cedar chest home. the animals were not played with, or even remembered until it was time to give them away. my lesson in learning to give was failing. and i gave up. i let the kids give what their little <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/07/covering-our-crap/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[the shema house, where the LWA guys live and i work at, is quiet this week.

perfect opportunity for me to throw away some garbage that weve collected, mostly old sofas and random stuff people give us as hand me downs, which is thoughtful, and the reason that it is hard to get rid of old crap. inevitably someone will give reason as to why we should hold onto this or that just a little more.

i understand. but i also see the need for occasional executive decision. i did the same when my kids were little. we together decided to give away some of our one hundred stuffed animals to other kids who may have none. as we went thru the animals in order to share our over abundance of bunnies, cute puppies, beanie babies and pokemon, the children loved each one and found reason to keep each one, and &#8220;gave&#8221; what amounts to &#8220;not giving&#8221; a couple of animals from their cedar chest home. the animals were not played with, or even remembered until it was time to give them away. my lesson in learning to give was failing. and i gave up. i let the kids give what their little <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/07/covering-our-crap/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>can i make me a key</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/05/can-i-make-me-a-key/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 May 2008 05:15:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[grace
a place
the only
true key
unlocking jails
setting self made prisoners
free

addiction the prison
walls slowly built
a need that we feed
a deadly way
knowing full well
slowly lead astray
good hearts

it is well
we say
its just for today
i cant do it another way?

first a lie
then you try
not to cry
so you hide
your face from your deed

those who love you plead
but in your greed
for ecstasy
you cant see
love and life
grace
and the place
in the honesty of community
where together we can be free

trust now bust
a lot of pain
will remain
to all in reach of the breach
of the promise

somehow they must
find a way
to still be grace
in the space
where now pain has taken hold
if not bold, we grow old
angry and bitter

finding the way
we can stay
fitter
for  life
filled with strife
we become free
of tangible reality
we become able to see
a place
where joy is not contingent
on what is happening to me

how
can we be grace
for the pain
seems to gain
a place in our wounded hearts
it numbs our emotion
trashes hope
instills <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/05/can-i-make-me-a-key/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[grace
a place
the only
true key
unlocking jails
setting self made prisoners
free

addiction the prison
walls slowly built
a need that we feed
a deadly way
knowing full well
slowly lead astray
good hearts

it is well
we say
its just for today
i cant do it another way?

first a lie
then you try
not to cry
so you hide
your face from your deed

those who love you plead
but in your greed
for ecstasy
you cant see
love and life
grace
and the place
in the honesty of community
where together we can be free

trust now bust
a lot of pain
will remain
to all in reach of the breach
of the promise

somehow they must
find a way
to still be grace
in the space
where now pain has taken hold
if not bold, we grow old
angry and bitter

finding the way
we can stay
fitter
for  life
filled with strife
we become free
of tangible reality
we become able to see
a place
where joy is not contingent
on what is happening to me

how
can we be grace
for the pain
seems to gain
a place in our wounded hearts
it numbs our emotion
trashes hope
instills <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/05/can-i-make-me-a-key/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>learning to lead</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/04/gain-is-found-in-loss/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Apr 2008 05:20:52 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Culture]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[change]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[i just made it up another life step with my 18 year old son. this past 2 years have been a huge inner life change for both of us. I have watched him turn from:
a silly 16 year old, part goofy kid, part responsible man
a more serious 17 year old, having faced his gas bill, working for jewel foods, applying for college.
into an 18 year old. he grew as he faced the joys of college acceptance and reality of rejection. he grew as he sifted through all of the advice thrown his way on what he needs to do to make it in this world.
he thought about what &#8220;making it&#8221; means
and what defines happiness
and seeing that he is great fish yet a little one in a big pond

He is ready to leave home in the summer.

this is what we raise them to do, to be ready to go out on their own.

as i saw the moment come where i realized that he is beyond ready
for he will do better outside of my home

i guess i did not expect this moment but i now see
that real readiness is when his growth is possibly inhibited by my constant presence
he is ready to go -to stand -to fall and to grow- <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/04/gain-is-found-in-loss/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[i just made it up another life step with my 18 year old son. this past 2 years have been a huge inner life change for both of us. I have watched him turn from:
a silly 16 year old, part goofy kid, part responsible man
a more serious 17 year old, having faced his gas bill, working for jewel foods, applying for college.
into an 18 year old. he grew as he faced the joys of college acceptance and reality of rejection. he grew as he sifted through all of the advice thrown his way on what he needs to do to make it in this world.
he thought about what &#8220;making it&#8221; means
and what defines happiness
and seeing that he is great fish yet a little one in a big pond

He is ready to leave home in the summer.

this is what we raise them to do, to be ready to go out on their own.

as i saw the moment come where i realized that he is beyond ready
for he will do better outside of my home

i guess i did not expect this moment but i now see
that real readiness is when his growth is possibly inhibited by my constant presence
he is ready to go -to stand -to fall and to grow- <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/04/gain-is-found-in-loss/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>my favorite age is: in between</title>
		<link>http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/03/my-favorite-age-is-in-between/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Mar 2008 05:30:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lisa O'Brien-Wentzel</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Culture]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[change]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[growth]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[a friend of mine asked me what my favorite age was, either for myself or for raising my children.

i answered : IN BETWEEN

Because i love the process of growth. see, its not so much the plateau, the year, the ability, the freedom, the intelligence, the fun,the control or the lack of difficulty that i seek, but the process of going from one to the other.

i find it interesting that people love:
heros
overcomers
winners
successes
intimacy
romance
rags to riches
underdogs
bootstrap stories
the mighty ducks
disney movies

we love to hear the story of the one who started low, and ended high.
we dream romantic dreams of being one of &#8220;those&#8221; heros.
we long for intimacy
we value the athlete who overcame a weakness above the one with natural talent.

yet we so often live our daily life rushing thru process ourselves. impatiently rushing to the next&#8230;.anything.
looking at the next step so much that we miss the one we are on.

the real beauty is not when my son was 2 or my son was 16. it is that i saw him grow from a drooling 2 foot tall being into 6 <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/03/my-favorite-age-is-in-between/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[a friend of mine asked me what my favorite age was, either for myself or for raising my children.

i answered : IN BETWEEN

Because i love the process of growth. see, its not so much the plateau, the year, the ability, the freedom, the intelligence, the fun,the control or the lack of difficulty that i seek, but the process of going from one to the other.

i find it interesting that people love:
heros
overcomers
winners
successes
intimacy
romance
rags to riches
underdogs
bootstrap stories
the mighty ducks
disney movies

we love to hear the story of the one who started low, and ended high.
we dream romantic dreams of being one of &#8220;those&#8221; heros.
we long for intimacy
we value the athlete who overcame a weakness above the one with natural talent.

yet we so often live our daily life rushing thru process ourselves. impatiently rushing to the next&#8230;.anything.
looking at the next step so much that we miss the one we are on.

the real beauty is not when my son was 2 or my son was 16. it is that i saw him grow from a drooling 2 foot tall being into 6 <a href='http://www.lovewithoutagenda.com/2008/03/my-favorite-age-is-in-between/' rel="nofollow">Read more...</a></p>]]></content:encoded>
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