Posts Tagged ‘kids’


Sometimes real needs are silent, when love looks like a vacuum

by:
10
Feb
2011
Sometimes.. The way we organize and systematize “Love”, usually in the form of primary care, is not bad, but seems to cause people to go on some sort of “care auto pilot”, and weaken our muscles of empathy and compassion. Sometimes when we think “help” we think of people in certain organizational categories “homeless”, “needy child”, “elderly”. Of course this is true, helping orphans, widows and the like, is good. But it seems that it can become hard to REALLY listen, to someone outside of the “weak box” who is REALLY hurting, and not just send them off to the ‘Democratic Dept of people who help you with our tax dollars’. Because we may get THAT feeling too. The one that cares. The Read more...



Daily valentines without agenda

by:
14
Jan
2011
In a month it will be Valentine’s Day, the heart candies and dog biscuits are already at The Home Depot checkout. Inside of me and you, and everybody, even grouches and hard hearts, there is something just as sweet and love-evoking as candy. I would like for us to share it here on the Love Without Agenda blog. This ‘sweet stuff’ we humans have is a mixture of inspiration, innovation, collaboration, sacrifice and hope. These are energies that all humans and only humans are born with. Sharing them guarantees that we can keep them, while the adversaries of life seek to take them from us. Everyday I will post a ‘Love Without Agenda’ action, or valentine. I invite you to post your valentine as comment for others to see, some of these we will repost or Read more...



Learning To Love With Jessie (Part 2)

by:
18
Feb
2010
Learning to Love With Jessie (Part 2) Lucky for me i make my decisions based on my dreamer parts and get there using my engineer parts. First why, then how. Otherwise we lock dreams in reality and only read about them as stories. When we adults opt out of important moments in the lives of kids, we rob them, their kids, and ourselves; we are fools to think anything is unseen. So, the fun began with Jessie in our home. My oldest son shared his solo bedroom. He no longer sat in the front seat of the car, Jessie did. He had someone older to watch older kid movies with. Sometimes they shared friends and play sports at a more mature level. He moved his role in the family as first born, to some extent. I dont think it was so easy for him. He listened to a LOT more talking than his brothers did. He listened to talking about bad hair days and feeling fat days. He helped her with math. She tells him he is smart, she is very expressive. He learns how to empathize and relate with well chosen words. I observe kids “loving without agenda” better than adults. These kids did not chose their life thus far, Read more...



Learning To Love With Jessie (Part 1)

by:
30
Jan
2010
Learning To Love With Jessie (part 1) Quite often i see life as a sport where love is the action, every moment like a ball thrown our way for us to practice the art of loving without agenda. Jessie is in my life one of those wonderful moments, lived on. I was total “koolaid mom”, lived on a block in suburbia in a 1920′s bungalow with charm all its own, its wooden red door always open for the neighborhood kids to become family with my 3 boys. We had tons of fun: made those tents from blankets and chairs on rainy days, ran around outside with sticks on all days, played baseball in the neighbors yard on nicer days and made stuff from playdough on special days. I made lots and lots of plates of grilled cheese sandwiches and swept lots and lots of crumbs. Jessie is the only girl on the block, a couple years older than the crowd of elementary school boys; mostly happy that her super high energy and, in her teen girl mind, menacing little brother, was always at my place. She lived at first with both parents, then mom, then grandma, then dad. Troubles in her home the same as many folks encounter, her Read more...