Posts Tagged ‘mindset’


A Letter from Jesus about Christmas

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009
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I’m a practicing Christian…although Love Without Agenda isn’s faith based– I do recognize the powerful foundation faith can provide for loving others—this is a note my friend Andrew Wood posted and I really like it’s sentiment…and since I’m a Christian & it so captures LWA’s spirit — I think its appropriate for me to share this here– Love you all….Spencer

A ‘Letter’ from Jesus about Christmas

It has come to my attention that many of you are upset that folks are taking My name out of the season.

How I personally feel about this celebration can probably be most easily understood by those of you who have been blessed with children of your own. I don’t care what you call the day. If you want to celebrate My birth, just GET ALONG AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER.

Now, having said that let Me go on. If it bothers you that the town in which you live doesn’t allow a scene depicting My birth, then just get rid of a couple of Santas and snowmen and put Read more...



Why We’re Giving Away Our Book

Tuesday, December 15th, 2009
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I posted this question “Ask us why we are giving our book away for free”

I went and took an hour or so ;) nap—— and came back to 10 people who wanted an answer.

So here you go.

Our book is about you. It’s about the meaning of life— it’s about us loving ourselves and other people. It also about how to actually be that type person from the inside out– and finally its about— all the things that stop us from living and thinking like that.

Its my take on what practicing christianity is supposed to be: love without agenda

anyways…

The main force on this planet eroding our ability to see people as valuable is this mindset of being a perpetual customer— that no matter where we go or what we do—— the world (and the people in it) are simply here for our use…and we just fail to see people as valuable.

people become fuel for our desires
people become fuel for my success
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loving leftovers

Saturday, May 23rd, 2009
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I have lived in plenty and less. About 2 years ago i became a ” food pantry” user as a primary means of feeding a large family. This is a far different way of living than what is the norm in america, the way I have always known. I have found some beauty in this new way of providing food for my family.

I grew up learning to cook from my mother and grandmother, a treasure like no other. My mother is a gifted and passionate cook and hospitality person. If you told me today that 100 dignitaries were coming to my home, i could serve a fine and delicious meal with ease, no recipe to read. With mom i made pierogoes (polish) hand rolled dough, golumpki (meat and rice stuffed cabbage in a tasty tomato based broth), baked goods finer than all bakeries, creamy mashed potatoes. i learned all the how to’s from folding batter to frying – which pans and oils are best…..i could go on and on and write books and books. My German grandma grew some of her own herbs and veggies. Every summer i would spend in her Iowa home learning to garden, harvest, can, cook and Read more...



can I see your ETHOS?

Saturday, April 18th, 2009
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My 3rd son was our first to join a mental sport, not football but robotics. While I was happy for he and his friends to have all the gifts that being part of a sport brings to ones character, I met -more- at my first standing in their midst.

I was instantly overcome by the feeling, vibe or ETHOS in the room. I had never felt or seen anything like it in a competition based group setting. As a disclaimer I will say that I directed youth groups and camps for years and am no stranger to the world of kids, teams and to the “how to compete” discussion.

Instantly while standing in the room of robotics students, I was aware of JOY. calm joy. not zany and chaotic kids vying for attention. CREATIVITY. not wacky emo stuff where kids strive to be different and yet are just like the other dressed in black purple haired kids they hang with. The kids dressed with creative self expression. non-emotionally expressive engineer types did the macarena. they named their own teams: exploding bacon, thunder chickens , chipenguineers, cheesy poofs and the like. INTELLIGENT Read more...



why nobody?

Thursday, December 18th, 2008
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Back in 2005 LWA had a speaking tour named the NOBODY tour, prior to our Stop Consuming Campaign, which some of you have heard of. Not many more than nobody were part of the Nobody Tour, but you gotta start somewhere. I still love the name nobody…..

i love the name nobody for in my mind it attempts to take back a truer definition of success than our culture defines as success.

I want to have eyes that laser in at the great in the somebody God created in everybodybut that the world puts in a garbage can and labels as nobody. I hear so many people feel like “nobodies” :

nobody =

is a child who does have one adult that they are crazy important to
is the feeling of one with great spirit -left unheard
is the uncredited woman behind a great man
is the man of greatness left disrespected
is any of great heart and noble means
is one who has great invention yet unvalued
one of great words-yet unread
those who move mountains with prayer
one of great intelligence-without a pedigree
a beautiful Read more...



live WHY-do HOW

Sunday, September 7th, 2008
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true or false:

1. all questions are valid ( whether innocent or cutting and sarcastic)
2. there are sometimes “front questions” (or question pt 1 of 6)
3. which cover up “the real question”(often non intentionally)
4. they have a personal feeling behind them (true, think about it)
5. they provoke thought (some people dont like that)
6. they can be good answers. (i learned that from jesus)
7. they can highlight or mask (intentionally)
8. the feelings and reason= attitude behind the question, shapes the question
9. a question can reveal true feelings and reasons (question behind the question)
10. the question is therefore far more powerful than their innocent face

all true.
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a question is very powerful. it is a window into a brain. it is a hand that can move a thought.

a question is very important. especially when shaping a vision.
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have you ever thought.”why doesnt he Read more...



Happy Labor Day

Sunday, September 7th, 2008

Its Labor Day. The day nobody works…thats so odd. Shouldn’t we call it National Picnic Day, or Non-Labor day? Any-whoo… It gave me a chance to check out where Labor Day came from and why we actually ‘celebrate’ [ I use that term loosely] the day.

At the turn of the century the Central Labor Union, based out of New York City, decided to create a day to celebrate the social and labor accomplishments of American citizens. This took place around the turn of the century, about the same time Leonardo DiCaprio and Daniel Day Lewis squared off for control of NYC.

So now you know the thrilling history of another American holiday that gives us all a legitimate excuse to stay up late, and sleep in late. It actually got me thinking about our work ethic, here in the states, and how generation X & Y views all it life in general.

We have become a nation of reapers. You know, like reaping and sowing. A nation designed not around work ethic and grindin’ in out, but a nation of consumers. It is so pervasive in our society that we nay not even realize Read more...



consumerism breeds apathy

Tuesday, September 2nd, 2008
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i am a people watcher. not the outside, but the insides, which reveal themselves. i am an observer and a listener.

i have gleaned little cues from behaviors, im sure you have too…
observed amongst a bunch of us who are growing and good people
..ways we are….things we do and say…. behaviors i see that made me ponder…..why?…what’s happening? to my generation. we exhibit:

low expectation of self
high expectation of others
low self esteem
high desire of control and position
burdened leaders
un-powered members
indifferent to the grossest of global need
desiring to be taught more than to learn
most people too busy to help
rich but no expendable income
loving with an agenda
more critical than grateful
sense of entitlement
independent mindset greater than whole group mindset
need of external joy
boredom within excess
being hungry and obese
addicts who who have graduated from the best help programs
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the freezing point of a leader

Saturday, August 23rd, 2008
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my son is studying chemistry in college, he wrote me yesterday to tell me that he has 3 labs.
yes, the lab. hands on independent discovery. theory tested. reality defined. problems solved.
most of us like the lab part of class.
cool equipment. dangerous work, bunson burners, safety goggles, chemicals that explode and burn and do cool stuff.
important work
discovering life
and death
and how it all works in between

in my own lab of life i have noticed :

that leaders have a freezing point.

anyone of of us, when leading

just like water, alcohol or oxygen
there are freezing points in our lives:
places
where one moment we were one way
and the next…
……………we are are very different
our old alive, moving, working as made to be
becomes frozen………….

oh, we swear we will never freeze

and then in frozen state
its too late
only the unfrozen
can rescue us

it looks like this in my living Read more...



beautiful emptiness

Tuesday, March 18th, 2008
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I have been pondering today empty spaces and the potential space for beauty that only they provide.

simple pictures:
new garden soil, ready to plant spring flowers or weeds
a nice clean empty table by the front door, very soon holds our keys and cell phones
a now empty bedroom can be a home to someone.
empty calendar time can give room to serve others
an undone job can be a new purpose for another

soul portraits:
empty feelings
failing to measure up
empty life purpose
fruitless life relationships
heartless traditions
fakey family
lifeless groups
unhappy seekers
off purpose churches
non focused faith
meaningless materials
nothing to trust
inability to be satisfied
in wonder of belonging
no joy in being
sitting in puddles of excuses
living limited
self misundersanding

unanswered questions

we search for the answer
to our weakness. our unmet need.
the non-answer is a ground work for a change to blossom
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