i am daily thankful of a decision i made as a young mom:
when my 3 boys were little toddler boys
as they made lego towers and playdough people
played on monkey bars, rode bikes, shared clothing, received athletic and academic awards, spent money collectively, received gifts of varied awesomeness, competed for their place in the family.
i let them know what was good and life giving or life killing, deadly
1.thinking of the other brother was what we did. it gives life.
2. speaking negatively to one another causes much pain to the brother, to yourself. deadly
3. and above all, even when wronged, solve your problems in such a way that you do not damage the other.
* my kids know our family golden rule. there is nothing so bad that you take out your anger on your brother.
today they remain independent yet interconnected, despite their still- existing self centered nature.
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