Posts Tagged ‘purpose’


to defined by what it is not

Thursday, April 3rd, 2008

sometimes when we look too close we cant see straight…….
one day a friend said that “i  could not define something mostly by what it was NOT.

hearing that caught me. for i love defining things by what they are not. for so often when something is defined by what it is our vision of it becomes boxed, thereby a wrong definition is communicated, and the hearer has a false expectation of it.
so, i order for me to correctly define anything living, growing or abstract and new, i chose to define it by what is it NOT.

it is possible that the best things in life are defined best by what they are not.

they are so big and grand and beautiful and beyond….that i find it smallizing, limiting, unjust, and incorrect to explain it by what it is.and grace:

try sometimes defining things not only by what it is in your knowledge and experience…..
take the lid off
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irresponsible tolerance < grace

Monday, March 31st, 2008

i am always around teenagers
i get to hear them speak of whom is ” cool” as far as adults
to the surprise of many adults, cool is not ever someone lax, who just lets kids get away with stuff.
those adults are not respected actually, and they are taken advantage of- they try to act cool and therefore cannot
cool is one who thinks openly and gives mutual respect to others, it is graceful and accepting

some folks mistake grace for
–lax
as if grace is just turning a blind eye
they want others to turn a blind eye
and they turn a blind eye to others

but it is love
to show us that we are hurting, others, ourselves
it is grace
a place where we experience in all of our senses
absorption of the damage done
work in restoring and healing
a gentle stoke upon our head
this responsible intolerance is grace
that leads us from our grave and sets us on the only path to life Read more...



beautiful emptiness

Tuesday, March 18th, 2008
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I have been pondering today empty spaces and the potential space for beauty that only they provide.

simple pictures:
new garden soil, ready to plant spring flowers or weeds
a nice clean empty table by the front door, very soon holds our keys and cell phones
a now empty bedroom can be a home to someone.
empty calendar time can give room to serve others
an undone job can be a new purpose for another

soul portraits:
empty feelings
failing to measure up
empty life purpose
fruitless life relationships
heartless traditions
fakey family
lifeless groups
unhappy seekers
off purpose churches
non focused faith
meaningless materials
nothing to trust
inability to be satisfied
in wonder of belonging
no joy in being
sitting in puddles of excuses
living limited
self misundersanding

unanswered questions

we search for the answer
to our weakness. our unmet need.
the non-answer is a ground work for a change to blossom
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5 womens restrooms to 1 mens

Saturday, March 15th, 2008

i was eating dandelion salad at greektown -(a classic chicago restaurant) -last week when one of the men went to the bathroom.
he returned to inform us that there were 6 bathrooms. 5 for women. 1 for men.
the owner is obviously a architectural genius with a new innovation based on his knowledge that :
woman and men are different.
not so. some say.
deal with it.some say

enjoy it. i say.

i love being a woman. i love accessories, skirts and high heels. i love nurturing and leading at the same time. i love begin pregnant, and letting men be men.

i think there are roles.oh, i dont want to piss anyone off. the roles are not so labeled and i dont intend for that. women can be anything, so can guys, i believe that. but there is a beauty in gender.

balance seems to be a key. i think the culture screws it up a bit. in each gender we seem to want what is impossible. both sides of all the coins, one or the other. i think it causes fights in marriages too. gender expectation. its sad because it is so workable and flexible. and that is Read more...



leaders dont always feel like leaders

Friday, March 14th, 2008

i am a leader. not talking about title. just by desire to serve where needed, and with this vow i have been placed in leadership since i was a girl scout. i am a servant leader for sure. and a follower when needed, good leaders know when to move over a little. i am honored to lead people to do good and change.

but sometimes  i consider. whining. running. i dont always know.

ive never asked to be a leader. i just focus on an end result, and know that i can get a group there. and so it happens. coming from passion.

sometimes life seems to be a war upon this very passion, one of hope.

and so, it is best if we -leaders  who never asked to be leaders- band together. find encouragement. validation.

i suppose, i could help lead that? Read more...



the hospitality of poverty

Friday, September 9th, 2005
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I have a book called “design for the other 90%”

90 % refers to the 5.8 billion/90% of the world who have little or no access to most of the products and services that many of us take for granted. Nearly half do not have access to life sustaining food, water or shelter. This book tells of current collaborations of top engineers and others at the Smithsonian who have now shifted focus of their talents to help this 90% live well. I love the mission and the name of the book, because in my american privilege and power I forget that i am only a part. ” To him who had been given much, much is required” , I long to never forget….

My brief stay among this 90%, otherwise called poor, on a couple of missions trips, along with my ample reading of others whom have lived outside of the US have now re-defined HOSPITALITY for me. In my opinion, the less afluent understand hospitality in a far deeper level than the wealthy. The hospitality of poverty is so beautiful that no longer do I see the entertaining that we call hospitality the real deal. How can Read more...